Catch 22

i seem to be in a catch 22, and i really don't know what to do

Back story


You all know that Daniel and I seem to get pregnant with out even trying or even wanting to be (I'm sorry if that sounds harsh to everyone though to be honest all 3 children and peanut were not planed one bit)
My SIL is having problems getting pregnant, i'm not sure if she has ever been  pregnant before or not,i thinks he is 12 years older than me and hubby (we are 25) and as far as i know she has bee n BCP for a god while,
With every pregnancy i have sent out "belly photos" to everyone including her as i havent wanted her to feel left out

This point in day

I get a txt from her the other day asking me not to send her any more photos as she finds them upsetting, as her and her son to be husband have had no luck (in the mean time i know she isnt happy for us), she has a wedding coming up in 10 weeks (i'll been 23 weeks along, and will have a big belly by then)
if it upsets her now, howis it going o be when i sow up to the wedding with Daniel and i have this huge belly on me,

Catch 22


Don't show up to the wedding to spare her feelings, and then possibly be the worse person in the world as she came to ours OR Go to the wedding with a huge belly and make her upset  as i will have the big huge pregnant belly that she has always wanted and does not have


Either way i am going to be in the shit, either i can wreak her big day, or i can just be a selfish mole and not show up (thats how it comes across to me)



Q: what would you do if my catch 22 was your catch 22?