well i guess i was asking for it, and i souldof know better,
though after Daniel having his "wild" dreams about a lady he works with, i asked him if he found her attractive or had a crush on her, and well yep he finds her attractive i guess tough who wouldn't find her attractive, i posted a photo of her on here, and yeah she really is.....
I guess it wouldn't hurt as bad, if it was any other night but last night, i gave him sex twice yesterday once in the afternoon and once right before he went to sleep, to wake up to him having one of "those" dreams.. kinda made me feel like crap that it wasn't good enough
Normally i am quite a vain person, though lately i feel horrible and unattractive and it doesn't help when my own husband doesn't even look at me that way any more, doesn't give me kisses or hugs or even tel me that i look lovely or pretty, though it quite happy to tel me i am getting fat
Am i over reacting to all of this?? or do i have a right to feel like i do? i really feel like if i told him to go and have sex with her that it is ok to that he would :( and that he would drop me like an egg on a hard floor :(, maybe it would be nice if he introduced me to her, so she could see and know just how i fee and stop egging it on i guess, or that i could tell her what she is doing to our marriage,
I honestly feel like getting a private investigator and see what he is doing where he is going and all of that, though i really shouldn't have to, Daniel should be able to tell me what is going on and how he feels with out hiding anything from me, if he was 100% honest with me maybe i wouldn't be feeling like this... or if he told me i was pretty every now and again that would be nice to
I totally understand how u feel i wouldnt like that to be happening to me but is this a one sided thing is it only him that is attracted to her? U say u would like her to know what she is doing to ur marraige but is she actually doing anything? surly it would be better for Daniel to know what he is doing to ur marraige this girl could be completly innocent in all this its not really her fault if daniel finds her attractive as u say she is very pretty and she probably has a few admires. But u are also pretty, the woman he married and mother of his children and if Daniel isnt giving u the love and attention that u need its closer to home u need to be looking not the girl. im not trying to be nasty here im just mearly stating that this girl could be none the wiser its not her fault he finds her attractive neither is it yours. And for ur own husband to tell u while u are pregnant feeling the way u are that he finds another girl that he works with attractive and to actually have the balls to come out and say it is out of order and disrespectful and he is very lucky to have u because i for one and i know others that would have packed his bags and thrown him right out, its disrespectful and damn right nasty!
ReplyDeleteI'm really not sure what u can do hun, i believe that without trust, there is no relationship. If he's messed around before and is quite open with u about his feelings for her then maybe u need to seriously evaluate the stability of ur relationship. I know u love him incredibly and he's the father of ur babies... but nobody deserves to be treated like this. U should be his one and ONLY! I think hiring a PI would be a great idea if u can find one that u can afford. It may confirm ur suspicions, or it may set ur mind at ease if he's actually being loyal. I totally agree with Caroline tho, are you sure that this girl reciprocates his feelings/attraction?? Maybe she is oblivious to his attraction to her and doesn't even realise he's practically throwing away his marriage and family over some little crush. If she does feel the same about him and knows about his wife and kids then she's certainly someone to be angry with - but shes a stunning girl and well, Daniel is average. I'd safely assume that she could snag just about any gorgeous guy and prolly hasn't even looked twice at ur husband. So breath a sigh of relief hun and maybe look into why he doesn't seem attracted to you, and why ur marriage doesn't seem to be as strong as it used to be. Maybe he's battling his own dramas in his own head that's leading to his behaviour and he just doesn't feel he can talk to u openly about it all. There's bound to be alot on both ur plates with everything u have both been through since u got married. *hugs* remember we're always here to talk and support you (and even give u somewhere to run away to lol) no matter what happens with ur marriage. As long as ur happy and the kids are safe and happy too, thats all that anyone really cares about. Don't kid urself tho, if ur not happy and can't repair things between u and Daniel, maybe u need to look at what other options u have xxx
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