i seem to be in a catch 22, and i really don't know what to do
Back story
You all know that Daniel and I seem to get pregnant with out even trying or even wanting to be (I'm sorry if that sounds harsh to everyone though to be honest all 3 children and peanut were not planed one bit)
My SIL is having problems getting pregnant, i'm not sure if she has ever been pregnant before or not,i thinks he is 12 years older than me and hubby (we are 25) and as far as i know she has bee n BCP for a god while,
With every pregnancy i have sent out "belly photos" to everyone including her as i havent wanted her to feel left out
This point in day
I get a txt from her the other day asking me not to send her any more photos as she finds them upsetting, as her and her son to be husband have had no luck (in the mean time i know she isnt happy for us), she has a wedding coming up in 10 weeks (i'll been 23 weeks along, and will have a big belly by then)
if it upsets her now, howis it going o be when i sow up to the wedding with Daniel and i have this huge belly on me,
Catch 22
Don't show up to the wedding to spare her feelings, and then possibly be the worse person in the world as she came to ours OR Go to the wedding with a huge belly and make her upset as i will have the big huge pregnant belly that she has always wanted and does not have
Either way i am going to be in the shit, either i can wreak her big day, or i can just be a selfish mole and not show up (thats how it comes across to me)
Q: what would you do if my catch 22 was your catch 22?
I think if ist her wedding then its her big day and she probably wont even think about it. It would probably upset her more if u didnt turn up to the wedding after all u are family. You cant control fate its not ur doing that they have had no luck in having kids. You should go have a nice time and dont think to much about it as i say its her special day she will be getting far to much nice attention to even be thinking about u and ur baby bump. Even if she was silly enough to let that ruin her day why should u hide away there are plenty of people in this world who struggle having kids but unfortunatly people around them have to be able to get on with there lives.
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